Dating men too nice
I remember seeing a movie called Fish Tank with a guy I was dating in college.
In one scene, the main character – a teenage girl – was partially undressed and asleep.
These guys are worth waiting for, but they don’t deserve a badge of honor. And despite what “nice guys” might say, you deserve that respect and owe nothing in return.
Suzannah Weiss is a New York-based writer whose work has appeared in The Washington Post, Salon, Seventeen, Buzzfeed, The Huffington Post, Bustle, and more.
He may simply complain about a dearth of messages in his OKCupid inbox, but he could also be capable of worse.
You always have the right to say “no” when someone tries to pressure you into a situation you don’t like.
While some women may date men who are domineering because our culture prescribes that this is what they should want, “nice guys” often make this accusation against women who aren’t seeking out jerks.We hear this not just from “nice guys” themselves, but also from other people who give us relationship advice.If only you would just give that nice guy a chance, popular wisdom goes, he might surprise you.For example, a “nice guy” may tell a fat woman she’s lucky to have earned his affections when he could date someone thinner – and that she should put up with his disrespect because she can’t do better.Our low standards for men manifest in a number of ways: In addition to applauding men for taking on parenting duties that are expected of women, we praise them for sexual conduct that should be mandatory, not praiseworthy.